Of course I am being sarcastic. I suppose the reason why people don't want to call themselves a feminist is the same reason I'm not comfortable calling myself an atheist. I have mostly the same beliefs (or lack of) as an atheist but the presumptions and the discriminations that come for people with that title in this country are atrocious. It is likely that a lot of people who don't call themselves a feminist still affirm the same principles the feminist movement stands for. That's one theory I have.
But I do think a lot has to change. We need to rethink gender roles. We've all been to dinner parties and family gatherings. Ever notice what happens when guests start to arrive? From my experience I see all the guests who are women offer to help in the kitchen. There's always something for them to do, while the men just sit back and relax, conversing with one another. Don't deny that doesn't happen. I've always noticed it and took advantage of my male privilege but lately it's really starting to piss me off. The last couple times I've offered to help. Oh but gender roles... Gender roles!! Men are awful in the kitchen, we can't cook! We're not wired that way... While it's true I am pretty bad at cooking but maybe it's because I was programed to think that men aren't supposed to be good at it.
I really hate the whole masculinity thing. My whole life I have been a victim to all of the pressures of what it means to be a man. I used to cry a lot when I was a kid and was bullied for it, which is why I can't really cry anymore. A man has to be tough, not feel pain. No complaining about the cold! A man doesn't drink fruity alcoholic beverages. He drinks beer, whisky, or rum. A man has to work out and have a great body. He must shave or wax his body hair, wait that's ironic. A man watches sports. A man is confident and thinks highly of himself. These are all stereotypes, I know. My point is that I don't want to be defined by our society's stance on what it means to be a man... Because frankly, I don't really relate to any of those, especially the alcoholic beverage one. I like me some sweet and tasty booze! If you've ever watched the show "How I Met Your Mother" I identify a lot with the character Marshall. We're like the same person.
This blog post comes from the perspective of a male feminist. There are many reasons why a female should want to be a feminist too, but I'm sure you're all tire of hearing them lately. It's a trending debate these days. Just watch Emma Watson's speech on the topic explaining why feminism is misunderstood by most people.